BDSM – A Beginners’ Guide To Bondage

Certainly, the term BDSM is not an unknown word to you and you have probably tried at least a more special erotic fantasy so far. Probably many of you have heard of this term from the movie Fifty Shades of Gray, which also contributed to the spread of this term.

Due to the fact that this sexual phenomenon is becoming more and more known, we considered that the time has come to share with you everything we know about the secrets of BDSM. If the words sadism, slavery, masochism, or domination are new to you, it is understandable and no one will judge you in this regard. A very important aspect that you should remember is the fact that you can combine sex, strength, and even pain, in a way that can bring you the pleasure that you did not have at the time of sexual intercourse. .

How to start practicing BDSM – The basic rules

This practice can be a real challenge for anyone who has not tried BDSM so far, and sometimes it can be difficult to understand how these practices are implemented.
Remember that when you start exploring this “world”, you have to do it in small steps and not rush.

Here are some basic rules for those who want to enter the world of BDSM:

1. Don’t try extreme toys from the beginning

For starters, it is more than enough to wear a mask and at the same time let your partner tickle you with a feather.
Also, a down whip can be a great choice and is one of the most enjoyable experiences when trying to get started in the secrets of BDSM.
When these activities start to excite you, you are definitely ready to move on to the next level and to more serious things like handcuffs, or hot drops of wax from a scented candle.
And then you can perform a sensual massage to your partner.

2. Have fun

There is a possibility that at first some practices that you start to experience may seem very embarrassing and you may not feel comfortable doing them. Being at the beginning, it is possible to make certain mistakes, but don’t worry, you are certainly not the first or last person to make these small mistakes. The most important thing to remember and to always put into practice is to feel good and have fun. It is very natural that at first everything seems very strange to you, which is why it is very important to gradually start with soft activities and then increase their intensity. If you notice that these activities do not satisfy you, it is definitely time to give up and stop trying.

3. Determine your role

Any BDSM practice involves a dominator and a person who is dominated. We recommend that you try both roles and see which one suits you best. During BDSM activities you have to give up prejudices because there is nothing shameful if the man is the one who is dominated. There are many couples in which the man is the one who is dominated by the woman, and everything goes very well, they feel relaxed and enjoying every moment and every moment.

What does it mean to be domineering?

During BDSM activities, the dominant person is the person who makes all the rules. This person has the right to slap on the bottom, use the whip, and can perform a lot of activities to the dominated person. These activities must be applied at the intensity established before starting the activity. In conclusion, the role of the dominator is to impose his power and control over the dominated person.

What does it mean to be dominated?

The people who are dominated are those people who must obey all the rules imposed by their rulers.
These people will do whatever the dominant person asks them to do.
Before the game starts, you need to tell your partner what your limits are that you should not exceed. It is very important for the partners to understand that this is just a game, and after the act is over, the role of the slave must end.

The best sex toys for BDSM

In recent years, BDSM toys have become very popular, especially after the release of Fifty Shades of Gray. Each sex toy has its own red and is suitable and special for each person, depending on his expectations. From handcuffs, whips, leashes, chains to suits or latex masks, everyone has their role. Even if the temptation is very high, if you are a beginner, it is advisable to start with lighter sectional toys. If you start directly with extreme toys, there is the possibility to intimidate yourself and give up these practices along the way.

Advantages of BDSM practices

People who have heard of BDSM only in movies and have never practiced it associate this activity with sadism and pain. Although it is often true, BDSM can actually be very exciting even for people who are not passionate about these things. In a healthy relationship, partners seek to meet their needs, but also to take care of those of the partner.  In such an activity, there is a golden rule: never exceed the limit!