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sex and love 14 Jul

Differences Between Having Sex and Making Love

There are many signs that can tell you whether your partner only wants to have sex with you, without the commitment of a long relationship. Some differences between sex and love can easily tell what he is actually looking for.

When you first meet someone, you focus on the things you see in him such as if you have any chemistry or connection. But you should also look at those things he notices at you. These will tell a lot about him and what he wants exactly from your relationship. After a while it becomes clear whether he is only looking for sex or a relationship.

What are the differences between sex and love making?

Hugs and kisses are ways of bounding and connecting with your partner. They can also be part of the foreplay. However, when he is only interested in sex, he will make the kissing part as short as possible and then take everything to the bedroom. A man who wants to make love to you will always look for opportunities to kiss you, even when it doesn’t lead to sex.

Also, a man willing to build a relationship with you will love your body completely. Whereas a man only focused on sex will notice the way you dress and your appearance. A partner looking for love will not be afraid to display his affection publicly no matter you are dressed elegant or simple.

If he shares his sexual fantasies and desires, he clearly wants to connect on a deeper level and he trusts you. When a man only wants to have dates that include pizza and movie at home, it is obvious he has no interest in showing up publicly with you and is more interested in simple dates that will end up having sex.

Foreplay is important for great sex. It sets the mood and creates intimacy. If he is only looking for sex with you, foreplay will be quick without awakening any senses and any interest. But if he is committed to a relationship, he will take his time for foreplay and cuddling after sex. He will do his best to satisfy you and make you feel wanted. Also, he pays attention to what you like in bedroom and respects your choices. He will take time to talk about this and make it as enjoyable for both of you.

With these differences between sex and love in mind, you can read the signs and understand what he really wants. Whether it is only about sex or committing to a relationship, it is better to set things straight from the beginning. Having sex and making love to someone are two things completely different and should be mixed up.

car sex 08 Jul

Car Sex: Tips and Positions

Car sex is as hot as it sounds. The whole idea behind it- finding a secret spot, driving there and the anticipation of the moment- they are all triggers of excitement. The place itself- a car- is a place of intimacy. You naturally sit closer to your partner and you include foreplay as well. the best part about having sex in a car is that you don’t have to plan it. You can simply include it in your trip as you travel somewhere and there is a place out of the sight of the public. It is about spontaneity and imagination.

Tips for great car sex:

  • Choose an isolated and safe area- the place is important. You have to choose an area that is private, where there are is no risk of people or cars passing by. Also, do not go to far from main roads as you access in case of emergencies.
  • Focus on comfortable clothes- try a dress or a skirt. These are easy to undress. Also, they capture the eyes of your partner and allows him to imagine different scenarios. Clothes that are comfortable and easy to take off are the best choice when trying car sex.
  • Include foreplay- but not while the car is moving. Simple things yet safe ones while driving such as dirty looks, subtle touches and mood-setting music. Moreover, you can go for evening drives while the sun is setting and stars come out.

There are also some sex positions you can try while having sex in a car:

  • Cargirl- during this position, the woman sits on top of her partner. It is easy to hop on and off and also it is comfortable while in a tight place such as a car. You will get clitoral stimulation and experience pleasure.
  • Reverse cargirl- same as the cargirl, except this time you will be back facing your partner. This position is great to hit your G-spot and have great sex.
  • Backseat doggy- this doggy-style position fits perfectly with the limited space you have in a car. You will both feel comfortable and experience the maximum pleasure.
  • The Om- it is a combination between a yoga position and romantic sex. It gives you a deeper connection with your partner and involves more romantism than just sex. This position involves hugging each other and wrapping your legs around your partner.
  • Reverse scoop- it is a lying-down position, with your legs intertwined and hugging each other. You can take full advantage of the space of your backseat.

Car sex is not only about fun but it can also be romantic and intimate. You have to choose the right spot and enter the mood. Add all the elements that will trigger your and your partner’s interest and make it as enjoyable as possible.

turn women on 30 Jun

5 Ways to Turn Women On

This is probably a question on men’s mind. What can you do to turn women on? There are many things that can turn a woman on, from emotional things to sensorial ones. If you manage to turn her on, you will enhance your time spent in bedroom and strengthen your relationship. Every woman gets excited abut different things. If she lets you into her world and tells you what triggers her, it means she is looking to create a bound with you and focus on your connection.

Here are 5 ways you can put into practice to turn a woman on:

  • Show interest in what she likes and what makes her happy- someone who shows interest and involvement triggers a woman’s attention. Therefore, simple things and questions about whether she is happy, if she enjoyed your time spent together and her favorite things to do make the difference. She will notice your interest in well-being.
  • Know her body and be creative- a woman’s body is different from the other. Although all women enjoy sexual pleasure as much, they like different things and at a different intensity. Everything to a woman’s body can be attractive when done in the right combination. Even the smallest touch of her thighs or a kiss on the back of her neck can turn her on. It is important to know what your partner enjoys and include it in the foreplay.
  • Subtle touches and small signs- they are easy to do in public and get her attention immediately. Simple gestures like touching her knee under the table or looking at her from across the room will instantly send the right message. She will notice your interest and you will awake her senses. Also, you can create your own secret code for telling your partner you want sex without anyone else noticing.
  • Play with sex toys and be creative- start simple and always bring something new. Also, you should consider going shopping for sex toys or costumes together. This way you will both choose things you are comfortable with.
  • Be romantic and surprising- romance is not dead yet. Women still like small things as a date night or a weekend getaway for just the two of you. It shows her how much you value your time spent together with no distraction. When it’s just the two of you, you have time and space to try new things in bedroom.

Most women are looking forward to try new things and have new experiences. But when it comes to how you turn a woman on, they all enjoy mostly the same things. You have to know your partner and ask her about all that she enjoys to do during sex and what excites. In this way, you will both enjoy the moment and feel the pleasure.

turn men on 21 Jun

5 Things That Turn Men On

Men have fantasies as well and they enjoy a little extra fun in the bedroom. However, there are some tips you can follow and things you can do that turn men on. It is not only about sex positions and sex toys that you can use. It is so much more than that. There are some tactics to make him want you more than ever.

Here are some of the things that turn men on:

  • A woman who likes to have fun, especially in the bedroom- sex is about pleasure, fun. It has to be enjoyable for both partners. Men don’t like women who tend to turn sex into a scheduled step-by-step system. It is not about the right time and the right place when it comes to it. Great sex is more about going with the flow, whenever you both are in the mood. From a men’s perspective, women who like to try new things and spice things up are definitely more attractive and turn them on.
  • Make him feel wanted- men are just like women when it comes to feeling desired and loved. It is no longer about men who make women feel wanted. It is also the other way around. A man who feels loved and desired by his partner will feel more confident and turned on. Desire lies at the base of great sex, so why not use it?
  • Talk dirty to him- yes, that still works, especially for men. Human mind is the starting point of anything creative, any fantasy. Therefore, use it as a trigger and whisper into his ear what you would like him to do. You will see he get turned on by it. Capture his imagination and interest for great sex and fun in the bedroom.
  • Open-minded women who like to try new things- great things happen when you have an open mind. Same applies when it comes to sex life. Men like women who are open to new things and new experiences. You both have to enjoy it and agree on it beforehand. New things in bedroom can be anything between a new sex position or toys. No matter what, keep in mind that men get turned on by your effort and willingness to try something new.
  • Women who love themselves and their bodies- yes, that turns men on. When a woman feels confident on herself and likes her body, it is also visible to others. The idea of perfection and perfect body is just a myth. A man’s attention is captured by your body acceptance and self-confidence. Men get turned on by how good you feel about yourself and your image.

These are just a few if the things that turn men on. There are so many others and each man have his own triggers. Start with these tips and you will see that you will capture his attention and he will want you more than ever.

The kinkiest fantasies of women 14 Jun

The kinkiest fantasies of women

Women are not kinky, their minds are. The brain is the one responsible for most of the orgasms we get. It develops sexual fantasies that turn us on and that’s perfectly normal. Through sexual fantasies, we explore our sexuality and our imagination. While men are supposed to develop more fantasies, find out that women are twice as perverted as men. Below, we have prepared the kinkiest fantasies of women that will shock you. 

The kinkiest fantasies of women

In the depths of women’s desires exist sexual fantasies beyond barriers you probably never expected. While men tend to have thematic fetishes, women are way rougher and enjoy kinky pleasures. The most 5 common fantasies women don’t usually tell are:

  • Sex with a woman.

Having a gay fantasy doesn’t change your sexual orientation. According to a study, almost every heterosexual is curious about kissing or having sex with a person of same-sex. If only hearing about an adventure with a woman turns you on, you definitely should try it sometimes. 

  • Handcuffs

From all the sex toys, handcuffs are the favorites of women. This fantasy is related to the extreme aspects of sexual domination. Because submission is highly arousing for women, they are very opened to BDSM and rape fantasies. Thus, a lot of women dream of being tied up teased, and spanked while being handcuffed and blindfolded. 

  • Watching or being watched

The fear of being caught increases the adrenaline. Therefore, some women find it arousing to be watched having sex or masturbating. The same rule applies to watching someone else doing so. Discovering people in flagrante having sex is a fantasy that is near the top list of women’s fantasies. 

  • Group sex

Here comes the fun part. You would be surprised to discover that women’s minds are thinking of having sex with more than one member. Whether it is a threesome or an orgy, every female being has imagined at least once about taking part in group sex. Unless, not all of them have the courage to express this fantasy. There’s no harm in dreaming. But you could propose it to your partner. Maybe he is in the same situation as you. 

  • Sex with a stranger

Many women would take the risk of having a one-night-stand with a stranger. This thing is daring and a thrill and this is the reason they feel excited about it. While some women follow a strict girl code, others dream about having sex in the most strange places, spontaneously, and with persons, they shouldn’t. 

 

In short, sexual fantasies represent the best modality to spice up things in the bedroom. So, talk openly with your sexual partner about your fantasies. For a healthy sex life, apply the fantasies from your imagination in the real life. If you have a sexual fantasy too, you should talk about it if you want to improve your sex life. The kinkiest fantasies of women are far more interesting than men’s ones. Check them in our previous article about men’s fantasies. 

Top 5 most known men’s sexual fantasies 07 Jun

Top 5 most known men’s sexual fantasies

Many people are afraid of not having a sexually normal spectrum. While everyone expects that men have the most strange and kinky sexual fantasies, women lead the top of most unimaginable sexual desires. Indeed, compared to women, men think more about sex. Men have dark fantasies too, but the top of the 5 most known men’s sexual fantasies comprises normal desires that would be boring for women. Check them out below. 

Top 5 most common men’s sexual fantasies

When you ask a man about his most craving sexual pleasures, he would certainly mention one of the next 5 examples below.

  • Having sex in a public space

Sexual pleasures includes sometimes practices of exhibitionism such as having sex in a public space. This sexual fantasy nourishes the excitement of being caught in the act. Overall, increasing the adrenaline in your body will also raise the rate of pleasure. Men love danger and try to mix everything in life with something that has a risky behavior. After danger, spontaneity is the second factor that males adore while having sex. Together, they form this sexual fantasy which is very arousing for the majority of persons. 

  • Foot fetishism 

Men love fetishes, especially those that involve women’s feet. According to a study, this is the most popular fantasy that involves parts of the body. Simply imagining some bare feet or touching them turns men on. In private, they worship the partner’s feet like a holy object. For example, acts like sucking toes, smelling, licking, kissing, massaging, and caressing for feet are very pleasurable for men with this fetish. This practice involves women’s shoes or socks.  

  • Latex fetish

Women dressed in thematic clothing are men’s favorites. But the most exciting material of all is latex. From their perspective, women who dress in latex costumes are dominating, bad, and naughty. Though, not all women that wear latex are aggressive and enjoy rough sex. Before, accomplishing this sexual fantasy, discuss with the partner and establish some boundaries. 

  • Anal sex

This idea is very common for couples who want to experience more. But in most cases, men are the ones who come with this idea. Why men are so interested in anal sex is easy to say. Because it allows them to experience other types of orgasms. Or, probably because that hole is associated with the forbidden fruit aspect. Convincing your partner to practice it might bring extra pleasure. In the past decade, women have become as open to anal sex as men. Nowadays, having anal sex is as normal as oral and vaginal sex. 

 

  •       Hair fetish

Whether it is a blonde, a brunette, or a redhead, every man has his own preference for the hair color of the partner. Some like ponytails, others curly hair. This fetish refers to the style and brings sexual fantasies to another level. It is so powerful that even when they see a girl with such type of hair, men find themselves daydreaming about sex with that person. 

Last thoughts

Sexual fantasies are exciting and thrilling. Though, have into consideration the boundary between safety and pleasure. Before practicing a sexual fantasy with your partner, establish consent with your partner and ask for permission. But mostly, use proper protection when having sex in order to avoid transmitting STIs and unplanned pregnancy. The top 5 most known men’s fantasies comprise some of the commonest sexual desired of males. 

Role play scenarios to spice things up in bedroom 01 Jun

Role play scenarios to spice things up in the bedroom

Through role-play, your partner is supposed to disguised into your biggest sexual desire. When you’re playing a role-play, you should show a different side of yourself and explore new ideas. The personage you`re acting is the opposite of yourself in real life. So let your imagination flow in new areas and express your sexuality freely. Therefore, use these 5 roleplay scenarios to spice things up in the bedroom.

The most arousal 5 role-play scenarios to spice things up in the bedroom

Medical fetishism

In this type of scenario, participants act like doctors, nurses, or patients. Partners can apply special medical practices to each other. This role play may include surgical procedures, anesthesia, or examinations, such as rectal or gynecological examinations. Things like measuring rectal temperature or inserting suppositories will boost your imagination level and offer you satisfaction. If you prefer the dentistry field you can try it using dental instruments. If you want to spice up these procedures, you can wear attractive costumes, uniforms, and special sex toys. A special experience of medical fetishism is administering anesthesia. Through this procedure, the partner can feel double pleasure. Sexual pleasure is increased by the feeling of dominance over the other partner.

Escort-Client

In this type of fantasy, a partner enjoys being told what to do and being humiliated. It is a very exciting process in which one of the partners plays the role of a submissive escort while the other is the dominant customer. BDSM and kink play combined with this role-play are ideal for couples who like strong sensations. Tie your escort with a leather wrist and force him/her to orgasm over and over again. Don’t stop until your partner begs you to stop. Forced sex is one of the most craved sexual pleasures. This experience can give you confidence and develop your sexuality.

Special delivery

If you are hungry for a  new sexual experience to try with your partner, then this role-playing will fit you. You can play the roles of the delivery pizza person and the sexy customer who doesn’t have enough money to pay for the delivery. Start by establishing how to pay and let your imagination guide you in what to do.

The hypnotist

You can play the role of the hypnotist which takes control of the partner`s body. Pretend you have a hypnotic power over your victim and play this scenario without inhibitions. Rough sex, S&M, and BDSM are allowed to be involved in this type of role-playing.

Age play

This form of roleplaying involves partners who act like babies, children, or elderly persons in order to satisfy a sexual fantasy. The most interesting age play is the incest play daddy-girl. But everyone has their own preference.

 

Keeping novelty alive is essential for long-term relationships. These 5 role-play scenarios to spice things up in the bedroom will bring the most pleasurable sexual experience in your relationship. Erotic role-playing involves sexual creativity, excitement, and intensity. This is an adventure in which you explore yourself and your partner and bring your sex life to newer heights. Which one will you first try?

 

5 myths about sex debunked 25 May

5 myths about sex debunked

In adolescence, you may hear some sex myths that remained a mystery even in adulthood. Many myths are meant to scare persons from being sexually too open. Taking them too seriously, myths can affect your sexual life. Below, we will present 5 myths about sex debunked.

5 myths about sex

“You’ll go blind if you masturbate”

In the past, people considered masturbation unethical and blamed the ones who practiced it. Consequently, this myth appeared in order to stop people from doing it. According to this myth, men can get blind if they masturbate while women can develop sexual dysfunction. But scientifically, there is no link between your genitals and your eyes. Moreover, masturbating brings many benefits. For example, it improves sleep and relaxation, releases endorphins, reduces stress, and boosts self-esteem.

“Women cannot get pregnant if they are on their period.”

This is a terrible lie that women cannot get pregnant while they are on their period. Generally, a menstrual cycle lasts approximately 28 days. Usually, a period occupies up to 5 of those days. -In these days, women eliminate ovules and uterine lining. Consequently, females are the most fertile during the ovulation stage of their menstrual cycles. In this time, new fresh eggs are produced. Also, if you didn’t know sperm can survive in the vagina for almost 5 days. Therefore, even if this myth was true, sperm would have survived in the vagina during the period and would have penetrated a fresh egg. If you want to prevent an undesired pregnancy or STS, use condoms when having sex.

“It is dangerous for a woman to have sex during the period”

The only bad thing that can happen if you have sex during a period is that the place will get a little messy. Overall, sex will feel better than ever before. Besides, through sex on period, you can reduce menstrual cramps and headaches. Actually, many doctors recommend sexual penetration during menstrual sessions.

“Sex affects athletic performance.”

Sex and exercising demand almost the same intensity. But this is the only resemblance between them. They do not influence each other from any point of view. This myth is very common in the sports world where coaches forbid athletes to indulge in steamy action before an important event. The reason was that their performance risked being weakened. On the other hand, researches prove that having sex before a sports competition cannot affect performance in any way.

“Orgasms are not real if they are not vaginal.”

The porn industry influenced the idea that women’s orgasms are only a vaginal experience achieved only through penetration. There are women who never had an orgasm during vaginal sex. Otherwise, they achieved pleasure only after clitoral stimulation. Not all orgasms have to be through vagina penetration.

Conclusion

Sex education is important at any age. It teaches us that sex involves beyond carnal pleasure, consent, respect, and responsibility. Surely,  the way you explore your sex life is a personal choice. But misinformation can cause troubles if you believe everything you heard. Social media, movies, and people can sometimes spread facts that make us confuse truth with myths. That’s why we have prepared these 5 myths about sex debunked.

 

28 Apr

Unusual Places To Have Sex

There are times in every couple’s life when, regardless of their sexual position, or the toys they try, their sex life can become a little boring, and they want to be able to change something.

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